It wasn’t really until 1991 that I came to clearly understand how much my husband, Ron, loves me. I’m not sure why after fifteen years of marriage I was still unsure.
We know that emotional needs and expressions of love are most often experienced very differently between a husband and wife. As the author Gary Chapman says in his book The Five Love Languages, husbands and wives don’t always speak the same love language.
I still had this little doubt in my mind about how deeply Ron loved me. It was a gap that existed, not in his faithfulness, but in my understanding of his love.
I’ll never forget, in 1991 Ron and I saw Kevin Costner in the movie Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves. It’s funny how sometimes a movie moment can interpret something from real life that hasn’t been clearly understood before.
Toward the end of the movie Robin Hood (Kevin Costner) says to Maid Marian, “I would die for you.” Of course, that line was written so that I would fall in love with Kevin Costner. But that’s not what happened. Instead, I turned to Ron and asked with a really shaky voice and tears welling up in my eyes, “Would you die for me?” He pulled me closer and put his arms around me and said, “Of course I would die for you. I would give my life to protect yours in a heart beat because I love you so much.”
And there it was. Those words from Ron helped me understand what was already a reality.
I felt assured of the deepest love Ron has to offer.
Not long after I read this verse, Romans 5:6-8:
6 You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. 7 Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. 8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
And I wept.
Because I felt assured of the deepest love God has to offer.